For years in hockey, my son had the skills (great skater and puck handler), and he was always enthusiastic at practices but never seemed very competitive during games. However, if we pressured him to play more aggressively, we knew he’d pull away and stop enjoying the sport. So, we sat back and waited. Then suddenly, when he was nine last year, he started picking up the pace during games. He had the “jam.” Since he was little, he never really liked competition, but with age, he learned to develop the drive we’d hoped he’d have. It was his call to make. And I’m glad he was the one who made it.