R U OK? Day: A gentle reminder for new mums

As a new mum, you may find yourself navigating a whirlwind of emotions, sleepless nights, and a sea of responsibilities. It’s entirely natural to feel overwhelmed at times, and it’s crucial to remember that asking for help or seeking support doesn’t make you any less of a loving mother.

On R U OK? Day, we want to extend a gentle reminder to new mums that your wellbeing matters too.

The central message of R U OK? Day is straightforward: it encourages people to ask a simple but meaningful question, ‘Are you okay?’ to those around them, such as friends, family members, colleagues, or acquaintances. The goal is to create a supportive environment where individuals feel comfortable discussing their feelings, mental health challenges, or any difficulties they might be facing. And here, we are asking the question:

Are you okay, mama?

The early days of motherhood can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. You might experience moments of pure bliss as you cradle your newborn in your arms, but there may also be times when you feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water. It’s important to understand that these ups and downs are part of the journey, and it’s okay not to be okay sometimes.

Recognising the signs that you might not be OK

R U OK? Day encourages open conversations about mental health, and as a new mum, it’s vital to recognise the signs that you might be struggling, such as:

• Persistent sadness or mood swings: Feeling sad or anxious for an extended period.
• Excessive worry or fear: Constantly worrying about your baby’s health and wellbeing.
• Extreme fatigue: Beyond the typical exhaustion of motherhood, feeling completely drained.
• Difficulty bonding with your baby: Struggling to connect with your child emotionally.
• Withdrawal from friends and family: Isolating yourself from loved ones.
• Changes in your appetite and sleep patterns: Significant shifts in eating or sleeping habits (unrelated to your little one).
• Feelings of guilt or inadequacy: Believing that you’re not doing enough or not being a good mother.

It’s okay to seek help

Asking for help or seeking support is not a sign of weakness; it’s an act of strength. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, reach out to your partner, family, or friends. Let them know how you’re feeling and what you need.

Don’t hesitate to consult a healthcare professional or therapist if you believe you need professional assistance. A good starting point is your GP. There are countless resources available to support new mums in their journey through motherhood.

Self-care is not selfish

Remember that taking care of your mental and emotional wellbeing is not selfish; it’s a vital aspect of being the best mother you can be. Find moments of self-care, even if they’re brief. Whether it’s a warm bath, a few minutes of meditation, or simply taking a walk outside, these small acts of self-compassion can make a world of difference in how you feel.

You are not alone

Lastly, know that you are not alone in your journey. Many new mums face challenges and moments of doubt. Sharing your experiences and seeking support from other mothers who have been through similar struggles can be incredibly comforting and empowering.

On R U OK? Day, let’s remember that your wellbeing matters just as much as your baby’s. Asking the simple question, ‘Are you okay?’ can open doors to conversations and connections that help you navigate the beautiful but often challenging path of motherhood. You are strong, you are capable, and you are not alone.

Motherhood was never meant to be done in isolation. It’s a journey best shared, a collective experience that thrives when nurtured by the bonds of love, empathy, and mutual assistance. It is in these connections with one another that reminds us that the village, whether physical or virtual, is an integral part of parenthood.