As a young couple, we biked rail trails together, enjoyed meals at unique restaurants, and watched shows like The Office and Lost at night before bed. He hiked without me, but there was always dinner in the city and Jim and Pam on the TV screen waiting for us later that evening. Sometimes he’d leave for days to backpack and camp out overnight. But we always had our activities to return to. We’d dodged what could have been a relationship deal breaker, but then we had kids and I had to readjust all over again.